Thursday, December 24, 2009

Christmas Hugs From Heaven

As much as I LOVE this time of year it is still hard. As I watch the boys open their presents I can't help but long to watch the one that is not here open his presents. But I think about the time I did have him and cherish those memories. I found this poem and wanted to share it for all those who have loved ones that are not here for Christmas.

Christmas Hugs & Kisses

Please don't be sad now that we are apart,
celebrate Christmas with me in your heart.
Our best Christmas ever is still yet to come,
for Heaven is where the first Christmas is from.
And so I look forward to when you'll be free
to spend your first Christmas in Heaven with me.
I'm waiting with angels, and until that day,
I'll keep sending my hugs and kisses your way.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Love & Marriage



Marriage (noun) - the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

What is a marriage? Is it a social or legal contract? Or something much more? To me it was just plain luck. I got lucky. I was not looking for a husband and lo and behold I met Doug. Well to be honest I met him before. But then I did not give him the time of day. He could tell you what I wore that night but I don't remember anything about him. I am sure you have heard the saying that some people get less attractive the more you know them. Well that was just the opposite. Once I really gave Doug a chance he really started to grow on me. Once we got past the whole he is my boss thing we really got to know each other. I was lucky again when he asked me to marry him.

I, Rachel, take you, Douglas, for my lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.

I will be honest I am not sure if those were our exact vows but I bet it is close. Little did we know how those vows would be tested. We have survived a crazy ex wife, issues with the step kids and then the death of our son. As bad as things got we kept each other close. When Ryan died we got spouted all these statistics about marriages not surviving the death of a child and things like that. I can see how that can rock a marriage. But I went into this marriage believing it was not disposable and I will be damned if that was going to take it away. Do we have the best marriage? No. But I think we have a very good one. He was taught to treat a lady well and that shows. He is not disrespectful or mean or anything like that. He is mine and I am elated. Like I said earlier. I got lucky.